In a world filled with constant conversation, embracing the idea of waiting before we speak can be a game-changer. I recently read a piece on the importance of “waiting to speak”,and as the holidays approach with gatherings of family, friends, and colleagues, I thought this concept was worth sharing.
This approach is especially valuable not only in our personal gatherings but also in professional settings, like staff meetings, one-on-one conversations, and employee reviews. Many companies conduct annual reviews in December, and using this skill can make those conversations more impactful and productive.
Today, instant communication often overshadows the power of silence. “Waiting to speak” is more than holding back words—it’s about listening fully, processing what we hear, and then responding thoughtfully. The urge to jump in with quick comments or reactions is strong, but when we speak without fully listening, we risk misunderstandings and miss out on deeper connections. Waiting to speak gives us time to truly understand the other person’s emotions and perspective, fostering empathy and openness.
You may have heard of the acronym WAIT, which stands for “Why Am I Talking”? Often credited to various advocates of mindful communication, it’s a reminder to pause and think before speaking. Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh once said we should speak only if we’re adding value to the conversation.
By waiting to speak, we show others respect and signal that we’re genuinely interested in their thoughts. This practice strengthens relationships, builds trust, and creates a more inclusive environment where everyone feels heard. For the listener, waiting to speak offers a moment to collect their thoughts, consider different perspectives, and respond with relevance and insight.
In professional environments, waiting to speak is an invaluable skill for leaders, allowing them to assess situations thoroughly before making decisions. In family settings, it demonstrates love and consideration, creating space for understanding.
Mastering the art of waiting to speak isn’t just about holding back words—it’s about recognizing the power of silence. When we embrace this skill, our conversations grow richer, our connections deepen, and we see the world in a whole new way, hopefully with a greater understanding.
Rhea M. Haugseth, DMD maintained a private practice in Marietta, GA from 1982- 2017. She attended the University of Louisville Dental School and completed her pediatric dental residency at Rainbow Babies & Children’s Hospital / Case Western Reserve University in Cleveland, Ohio. She is a Diplomate of the American Board of Pediatric Dentistry and a Fellow of the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry. She is proud to be a Fellow the American College of Dentists, the International College of Dentists, and the Pierre Fauchard Academy – National Honorary Organizations for Dentists.
Dr. Haugseth is a Past President of the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry (AAPD), the Southeastern Society of Pediatric Dentistry (SSPD), and the Georgia Academy of Pediatric Dentistry(GaPD). Dr. Haugseth has been a National Spokesperson for the AAPD since 1989 and has been frequently interviewed for radio, print, and national television.
Dr. Haugseth is the Founder (2013) and Director of the Atlanta Pediatric Dental Assistant School in Atlanta Georgia. She is also the Founder (2014) and Director of the Pediatric Dental Team Association. She is committed to pediatric dental team members and continues to develop ways to enhance their knowledge and skills both in and out of the dental office.